I’m not sure if it’s the right move, but unless I know someone and their orientation I’ve started referring to everyone as they/them.

It feels like I’m being lazy or something at times, but it’s the approach that makes sense to avoid unintentionally misgendering someone. Once I know you and what you prefer I use those, but otherwise it seems like the best approach? I don’t know.

Now if I could train sir and ma’am out of my vocabulary that’d help